Beauty Therapist/mother-of-three, Ashley Murrell,
has urged couples to not go to bed angry after
she fought with her husband and woke up to find
him dead. Ashley and her husband Mickey, met
in 2007 and tied the knot in 2010. After they
married he adopted her 14-year-old daughter and
they later had twins in 2013.
The night before his sudden death, Ashley had a
heated argument with Mikey, 36, when he
returned home late from a 16 hour shift as she
was worried that he was overworking his injured
body. They failed to resolve the argument before
bed and she told him to sleep on the sofa, which
he did. By the next morning, she discovered he
was dead.
Paying tribute to her husband, Ashley who later
discovered that he had been working extra hours
to save money to take her to Prague for their
anniversary, said:
"Mikey was so caring, if he walked into a room
and saw someone unhappy he would be the first
person there trying to cheer them up. He
absolutely loved his family. He wanted his kids to
have all the things in life that he didn't and he
worked so hard to make that happen. He would
work 16-hour shifts, seven days a week just so
he could save up enough to take us all to Disney
every year. He was so worn out but he would do
anything just to see us smile.
"But the hours he was working were just getting
too much. He was so exhausted all the time and
he was running himself into the ground and his
health was going downhill fast. When he came
home that night he was a mess, I have never
seen him so exhausted. I couldn't stand seeing
him like that and I got angry. I was sick of it.
"I had a go at him and told him to sleep on the
sofa which was stupid because I really just
wanted him around more. When I came out of the
bedroom and saw him the next morning I knew
something was wrong straight away. He was
lying exactly where I left him and his face was all
discoloured - he looked grey. I walked over and
touched him but he was cold and I jumped back
and ran out the room. I started screaming "your
dad's dead" to my 14-year-old and ran into the
street screaming "Mikey's dead". 'I blacked out
and had to be carried back into the house by
neighbours. It felt so surreal, I couldn't process
it. I didn't feel like he was dead, I felt like he had
left me..
"When the ambulance came and they confirmed
he was dead I collapsed onto the floor and I was
sick. Nothing made sense 'I felt so guilty. I was
so angry with myself for making him sleep on the
sofa. I still find it so hard to think that my last
words to him were out of anger. When I found out
he'd been saving to take us on an anniversary
holiday it was awful - heartbreaking doesn't begin
to cover it. Losing Mikey has changed my entire
perspective on life. Life is too short to go to bed
angry and not to spend every moment you can
with your family."
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